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By Robert Kurzban

Robert Kurzban is an Associate Professor at the University of Pennsylvania. His first book, Why Everyone (Else) Is A Hypocrite, is now available.

New Theory: Sex is a Resource Men Compete and Pay For

Published 18 August, 2011

Last week, Salon ran a story about a topic of possible interest to people who follow evolutionary psychology, about male and female differences surrounding sexuality. The article was prompted by a talk given by Roy Baumeister at the American Psychological Association conference, which, judging from the Salon story, seems to have drawn on a paper he published with Kathleen Vohs in 2004 in Personality and Social Psychology Review.

The paper begins by suggesting that there have been two different approaches to sexuality recently: “One of these emphasizes biological determinants, especially as shaped by evolutionary pressures. The other emphasizes social construction…” (p. 339). They propose a “different discipline,” economics, to look at sexuality, drawing on Becker. The basic idea is reflected in the title of the paper: “Sexual Economics: Sex as Female Resource for Social Exchange in Heterosexual Interactions.”

Their new idea which they want to introduce is the novel notion that, in contrast to old, past ideas, you can think of sex as a good that females possess and that men wish to consume.

From this new, novel, unique notion, they develop what they call “Female Resource Theory,” which is the idea that access to sex is a resource that females possess and men want, making it possible to think about sex in economic terms. This idea leads to a number of new, novel “predictions” (p. 341) such as this one: “Men will offer women other resources in exchange for sex,” but not the reverse. (I was able to confirm this prediction was, in fact, true by Googling “World’s Oldest Profession;” Apparently this prediction was confirmed several thousand years ago. But then there’s Deuce Bigelow Male Gigolo, so….) The second part of the theory is that because sex can be understood as a scarce resource, it can be subjected to economic analysis, which provides tools for understanding how scarce resources are allocated. Baumeister and Vohs make the point that the price of bananas depends on demand for them and the quantity of bananas, which just might be right.

Readers of this blog will probably recognize the structure of the idea here from Trivers’ (1972) theory of parental investment. He explicitly linked sexuality and the economic concept of scarcity, writing (p. 140) that “…the sex whose typical parental investment is greater than that of the opposite sex will become a limiting resource for that sex….” Because males are frequently the less-investing sex, he wrote, sexual access to females becomes a resource: “The form of male-male competition should be strongly influenced by the distribution in space and time of the ultimate resource affecting male reproductive success, namely, conspecific breeding females.”  (Trivers, 1972, p. 159). (Oddly, I was unable to find a citation to Trivers in the PSPR paper, which is strange given how closely related the ideas in the paper are to Trivers’ ideas.)

Readers of this blog might also be familiar with Don Symons’ (1979) book, The Evolution of Human Sexuality. Drawing on Parental Investment Theory, and related ideas, he wrote:  “Among all peoples, copulation is considered to be essentially a service or favor that women render to men, and not vice versa…” (p. 27-28). He elaborates this point in a chapter entitled, “Copulation as a Female Service,” including a number of remarks about “the economics of sex,” (p. 272) and in particular the idea that sex is a female resource, as in his discussion of the fact that, cross-culturally, “copulation generally is a female service” (p. 271), which can be understood in light of the evolutionary ideas he advances.

This all makes it puzzling that while the authors of the PSPR piece concede that Symons “deserves recognition” for observing that men want sex and women provide it, they portray their ideas as new, writing that “applying economic principles to sex may seem novel…” and: “In our view, previous attempts to apply social exchange theory to sex have neglected one crucial aspect, which will be featured in this article. Specifically, sex is a female resource.”

Having said that, while I was unable to detect much that was new in the theory – certainly, economic analyses have been applied to this domain for decades – I would say that there is something novel about it. In particular, departing from existing theories, their theory brings to the table something the others don’t have: an inability to explain even the coarsest patterns of human sexuality.

Unlike Parental Investment Theory and Sexual Strategies Theory, the “new” “theory” can’t explain the origin of the preferences nor any of their texture. For instance, Baumeister and Vohs discuss the value of female virginity, but one needs Parental Investment Theory to explain this male preference. They assert that having sex for the first time “signifies the commencement of adult sexual activity and therefore may be an especially important step and choice,” a non-explanation for the value that men place on female virginity. The issue of paternity certainty, of course, makes this crystal clear.

They also claim that their theory can explain the data on infidelity because “Female sexual infidelity involves giving away a precious resource that the husband wants for himself, whereas male sexuality has no inherent value.” (p. 348). However, their theory doesn’t say anything about sexual exclusivity; nothing in the model says that female sexuality is something men want to monopolize, only something that men want to consume. Again, one requires Parental Investment Theory to explain the proximate psychology.

Their theory can’t explain the most basic aspects of mate preferences, such as why sex with women of a particular age is favored over sex with the elderly, or any of the other preferences that have been well documented. In short, the theory is unable to accommodate existing findings, and “predicts” – really, post-dicts –  empirical patterns well explained by other theories.

References

Baumeister, R. F., & Vohs, K. D. (2004). Sexual economics: Sex as female resource for social exchange in heterosexual interactions. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 8, 339–363.

Trivers, R.L. (1972). Parental investment and sexual selection. In B. Campbell (Ed.), Sexual selection and the descent of man: 1871– 1971 (pp. 136–179). Chicago: Aldine.

Symons, D. (1979). The evolution of human sexuality. New York: Oxford.

Also, for one analysis of sexuality from the perspective of women as a scarce resource, see:

Guttentag, M. & Secord, P. F. (1983). Too Many Women? The Sex Ratio Question, Beverly Hills: Sage

Finally, for a brief analysis of how evolved psychological mechanisms give rise to the laws of supply and demand ( “…natural  selection’s invisible  hand  created  the  structure  of  the  human  mind, and the interaction  of  these minds is  what  generates  the  invisible  hand  of  economics: one invisible  hand created the other,” p. 328), see:

Cosmides, L. & Tooby, J. (1994). Better than rational: Evolutionary psychology and the invisible hand. American Economic Review, 84 (2), 327-332.

  • Jesse Marczyk

    “Our new theory departs from mainstream Evolutionary Psychology theories by being substantially less explanatory and less novel”

  • Alex

    This post reminds me of something Bill Hicks said in reference to accusations that Dennis Leary had stolen some of his jokes:

    “I have a scoop for you. I stole his [Leary's] act. I camouflaged it with punchlines, and, to really throw people off, I did it before he did.

    One thing about plagiarism seems to be that when other people take ideas they normally just do a much crappier version of the original ideas.

  • Kyle Thomas

    The comments under the Salon article are absolutely classic! I checked to see if someone had said something like this there, and boy was I amused.

  • http://personal.psu.edu/jab908/home.htm Michael

    So I read this blog regularly though rarely comment. This entire post had me laughing and the first poster’s comment (from Jesse) made me laugh equally hard. Thanks for doing this blog. I love it.

    • J. Goard

      Ditto.

  • Mars

    For a couple of reviews of why it can’t be taken for granted that women are a scarce resource (and why Trivers 1972 is wrong) see:

    Kokko and Jennions. 2003. TREE

    Kokko and Jennions. 2008. ESEB

    • http://vertebratesocialbehavior.blogspot.com Clara B. Jones

      Unless I am mistaken, in the chapter you cite, Trivers says “all other things being equal” (a common phrase in his publications is ceteris paribus) and/or he clearly qualifies the generalization he makes–one that is, on whole, accurate, probably for the reasons he outlines (anisogamy). Emlen & Oring (1977, Science) clearly explicate when females will and when females will not be limiting resources for males [their operational sex ratio (OSR) formulation].

  • http://www.realadultsex.com figleaf

    I think you’re misreading Baumeister’s thesis. If you actually read Tracy Clark-Flory’s Salon.com interview with Baumeister he seems to be saying something other than “women trade sexual favors for material gain.”

    Here, I think, is the key sentence:

    When women have more access to educational and financial opportunities, they don’t need to hold sex hostage as much, so they relaxed the controls they’ve put on sexuality.

    In other words he’s saying women’s role in transactional heterosexuality appears to be a social artifact, not a product of evolution.

    That’s not to say parental investment theory doesn’t play some role in mate selection. It does suggest it’s neither a) as cut and dried nor b) as deep or pervasive as proponents of standard models would like to believe.

    I don’t think Baumeister means what a lot of people think he means.

    figleaf

    • Ian

      Caring for resource-intensive human babies has been a rather large problem for women throughout human history. Thus, it can be expected that women will be more reluctant to have sex when they feel resource-insecure, and less reluctant when resources are plentiful. Furthermore, when resources are plentiful, one would expect women to place a higher priority on good genes.

      Saying that “When women have more access to educational and financial opportunities, they don’t need to hold sex hostage as much, so they relaxed the controls they’ve put on sexuality.” is fine, except that it doesn’t provide a whole lot of explanatory power. What opportunities would they be considering? Are they making this decision using generalized rational thinking skills (“I’ve got a good job so I can afford to sleep around now”), or are they using an unconscious module in their decision-making (“I really like that guy and I think I’ll have sex with him, although I’m not sure why”)?

      My point is that it’s easy to say a bunch of words that look plausible, but coming up with a rigorous model is much harder. My money is on these types of decisions being almost entirely instinctual, and based on modules that are trying to solve adaptive problems that don’t exist anymore and using information which isn’t really suitable. Thus, I have a hard time believing any model which doesn’t A) declare that it’s just a model and B) admit how difficult it will be to tease out exactly what these modules are looking for and how they’re looking for it.

      Honestly, evolutionary psychologists need to spend more time hanging around the pick-up community (men who sit around theorizing about how to pick up women). These guys may not be very scientific, or even very ethical (a lot of the time), but at least they’re probing the boundaries of exactly what human sexual behaviour is.

      • Ian

        Just to clarify, my main criticism is in determining how women judge resource-security versus resource-insecurity. It is based on number of friends? Quality of the relationships? Educational attainment (which is arguably an evolutionarily novel concept)? Amount of material goods (also, to an extent, evolutionarily novel. Audi’s are a recent invention)?

        And even once you list all the possible factors, coming up with a reliable way to test how real people perceive them (and tease out individual and cultural differences) is extremely difficult. Of course, I believe that it’s possible, and the a resource security judging module exists. But it’s not easy.

        Incidentally, I’m currently dating a girl who was a foster kid. She’s really, really attractive (like, model hot) and I’m a bit of a nerd. Normally I never date anybody as attractive and confident around other people as she is. However, this girl has a major dislike of heavily muscled guys, and actually prefers nerds. Although I can’t prove it, I guarantee that the reason she goes for reliable, nerdy guys (and has lots of far less attractive female friends) is as a kind of resource-hedging strategy. She also tends to be fairly pessimistic about the future (resource-insecurity again) and doesn’t invest heavily in long-term things like education (ditto). She is really hot though.

        • Ian

          And just to elaborate on the former foster kid (now 20-something): Women’s social status in a small-group society (thus humans in general) is largely based on their attractiveness. Attractive women can manipulate men through offers of sexual services more effectively than unattractive women. They can also exert social aggression against unattractive women through the threat of mate poaching.

          Thus a woman who is confident and attractive like the one I’m dating would generally be expected to act as though she is resource secure. However, an early environment where she had highly unstable relationships could interfere with that, and trigger responses that would prime her to more effectively respond to resource insecurity. Essentially, because she didn’t have her biological parents she acts in ways that will help her if bad times return.

          Thus, by being friends with unattractive women, she loses out on the social assistance that a more powerful attractive woman could give. However she gains in stability, because they have more to gain by staying friends with her. By mating with lower status nerdy guys like me, she gains in stability because I have more to gain through my relationship with her. However, she loses out on the better genes that a big strong alpha male could provide (but doesn’t have to worry about sharing resources with his other mates).

        • http://www.realadultsex.com figleaf

          Hmmm… Or maybe it’s that by and large women have criteria that aren’t the same as what men (in competition with each other) imagine should be women’s criteria.

          So maybe your partner actually likes you because, despite what some might consider a kind of creepy inclination to deny her ability to make emotional partner choices rather than ruthlessly calculated ones, she likes you.

          But seriously, you’re a straight man right? So even though you might not think you’re attractive you’re sort of by-definition not your target demographic. She on the other hand might think you’re hot despite your pessimism.

          That’s a complement to both you and her, by the way.

          figleaf

          • Ian

            “Suppose she actually likes you”

            You still haven’t answered the question: why does she like me, and not guys with big muscles?

            I should add that I don’t discuss evolutionary psychology with her, ever, especially not in relation to her. In fact, I have a policy to never tell people what I really think of them (according to EP) unless they know a lot of EP. It interferes with their artificially high self-conceptions and generally makes you an unpopular person.

            So when I say that she likes me, and that she hates guys with muscles, what I mean is that she’s told me that and when I quiz her she has no idea why. Being the sort of person that doesn’t like to leave questions unanswered, I have a model to explain it, but in the interests of relationship stability, I don’t tell her because she’s not that interested in EP and it would sound like I was trying to insult her.

    • Robert Kurzban

      Thanks for your remarks. Just to clarify, I did “actually read” the interview, but my remarks in my post here refer to the 2004 PSPR paper, not the interview. I tried to indicate that in the post, but I probably could have been more clear about that.

  • http://www.realadultsex.com figleaf

    I dunno, Ian. I’m guessing that if you mentioned your theories about her your partner might catalog it with other “cute but dumb” things you do.

    As for not liking muscle-bound men, the still-new UK porn-for-women magazine Filaments did a bunch of market research a few years back and found that contrary to popular belief roughly 60% of women prefer “men who are not muscle-bound; men with more feminine face shapes; men with attractive faces; images that show the subject’s character and the environment he is in.”

    As I’ve said, men instead expect women to prefer muscle-bound men, men with more “rugged” faces, and highly, um, decontextualized photos of a single item of male anatomy.

    If anyone ever wanted to do serious EP research they might explore why so many men seem to have evolved to ignore the rather obvious fact that given a choice most women aren’t terrifically drawn to the features men think are “attractive” about other men. Because in terms of mating behavior that’s kind of overwhelmingly weird and seemingly self-defeating.

    figleaf

    • Ian

      Well, she’s not my partner for starters. I tend to do a lot of “research” into human female sexuality, and a large sample size is essential (especially in one’s mid-20s). Seriously, you should have a read of Why Everyone (Else) is a Hypocrite if you haven’t already. There is no reason to expect that men would have evolved to be particularly good at figuring out the specifics at what women are attracted to do.

      Now, seeing as we’re getting into a discussion of “what women want” I might as well get into some proper theorizing. In my experience, it’s best to start by ranking people in order of their social status. However, this is a tricky thing, because it’s not their actual social status that you’re measuring. For starters, you need to ask, what group are you measuring their status in?

      The answer is that in modern society there is no group! Status is all in your head, and what’s more, if you’ve read Rob Kurzban’s book you’ll quickly realise that your conscious perception of your unconsciously calculated status will be hopelessly high. To put that in plain language, nerds often think that they’re high status, but they display *lots* of low status traits.

      So, what are these traits? Think nervousness: quick, jerky movements, lack of eye contact, touching your face or body in nervous ways during social interactions, rises in voice pitch, and just a general air of nervousness. Honestly, it’s a tough thing to describe, but I know it when I see it. Kurzban, if you’re reading this, you should know that in YouTube videos you don’t score very highly at all on my social status assessment scale!

      These status signalling devices serve a very important purpose in human small-group societies. They’re a way of saying “hey, I’m harmless, I’m not gonna get involved in group politics, don’t bother hurting me”. If you’re a nerd who reads books instead of learning to fight, beta-status signalling is a great insurance policy, and it only costs you a small tax of resources every time the alpha males take your lunch money.

      Now, having realised that there’s a spectrum of human behaviour from alpha to beta in human males, you need to realise that there’s the same spectrum in women. And sure enough, lots of women are going to be interested in beta males and signs of betaness like being “cute” or not too muscly. In fact, many women will be totally repulsed by douchey alpha behaviour. That is, many beta women.

      However, there are basic traits that you can manipulate if you’re a 20-something male who’s looking for casual sex. For starters, alpha behaviour is easy to generate with a bit of practice. Don’t show nervousness, don’t touch your face, don’t fidget, don’t let your voice get high pitched, hit the gym, take steroids, go around beating people up, start a band, whatever. Maybe avoid the later parts of that list. Also, don’t brag! Beta males like to talk about themselves in order to approval-seek the alpha males. That’s great if you want to be a successful beta, but if you want to appear alpha then you won’t get anywhere talking about yourself.

      Other issues are meeting lots of women. Cold-approach pickup is the technical term for this, but the hard part is that men have instinctual fears about approaching strange women. In the past, strange women have often had boyfriends. Murderous boyfriends. Overcoming this fear is essential for success though, seeing as nervousness makes women assess you as beta and furthermore, meeting an unfamiliar nervous male is often the start of a bad story, one involving rape and stuff.

      The usual way that I combat this is through a combination of feeling alpha, doing lots of approaching (exposure) and walking around with a dumb (genuine, using the eyes) smile on my face so I feel goodwill to all people. Generally it’s quite successful. Often I’ll have nights where I’m literally leaving group of girls that are following me around (that I’ve just met) in order to meet even hotter girls. Other nights I’ll be terrified to talk to anybody and go home with persistent feelings of insecurity stuck in my head. It’s all good fun though, and you meet lots of people, which I enjoy.

      Once you meet some women that want to talk to you there’s a couple of things you need to do. First of all, don’t talk about yourself, talk about them. Asking questions is okay, although it can sound approval seeking, so I tend to stick to guessing things about them or just talking about stuff that doesn’t directly relate to either of us. Often, at this point attractive women will start to unconsciously test if they can control you. For example, the ex-foster-kid kept asking to see my ID because she thought I was younger than her (probably because I looked beta, which made her unconsciously see me as young looking). Once I told her no and ignored her for a bit she softened up, but from experience, giving in would have ended in her getting bored and walking away. It’s no fun talking to a loser, controllable guy if you’re that attractive. You need to lead the conversation, and in turn start to lead the group. Take charge. The evolutionary role of alpha males was group leader, so if you want to convince people you are one then leadership goes a long way.

      Finally, why, you ask, don’t I just tell my current sex buddy about my theories. First of all, bragging about yourself is inherently beta, and she’s quite alpha (though resource insecure). She hates is when guys talk about themselves, and me saying how I know all about her inner motivations would just sound like bragging. I’ve tried. I could see that it wasn’t working and changed the subject. Indeed, although she likes me for the potential resource security I could provide she still demands a high level of alpha behaviour, and I can actually see her lose interest every time I slip up.

      Now, I know that a lot of this makes me sound like a douchebaggy cad. Definitely, many relationship-oriented women have a strong revulsion to reading stories like the one above (all the better to avoid low-investment males). However you need to remember that I don’t use people anymore than anyone else does. I just use evo psych based theories to get along with people who don’t normally like me.

      Incidentally, I’m also an officer in the military and since I started acting more alpha I’ve been a lot more successful. Alpha males run the military. As a beta male it doesn’t really matter how competent you are, unless you act the part nobody is going to follow any of your ideas or want much of anything to do with you. Following alpha people, and believing their ideas over beta people has just been good policy for a long time, and the military attracts some very alpha people. It can be hard for a science nerd like me to compete. Politics is fairly similar, so next time you see an alpha politician criticizing a beta scientist over something like global warming, remember that there’s actually lots of good EP in that interaction.

  • Ian

    Just to add upon what I wrote about human female sexuality. From what I can tell about you, you’re a fairly good example of a beta female. For starters, writing a blog is a fairly beta attention seeking activity. Also, when you play certain scenarios in your head you get results that a beta person would tend to get. Not many alpha females talk about “cute but dumb” traits in the way that you do.

    I’m not saying that any of this is a bad thing. There’s nothing wrong with beta behaviour, and indeed, extremely alpha people make good leaders but in my experience don’t have the motivation to obsessively work on specialized topics that science and technology demands. Furthermore, alpha people tend to have more social skills, which seems to necessitate a reduction in specialized brain modules that let science nerds do their job. Nobody knows how that really works, but you see a lot more engineers with autistic kids.

    However, when you judge my opinions on things keep in mind that these beta instincts are not shared by everybody. For instance, the alpha girl (woman) that I’m sleeping with. Right now for instance I was waiting for her to come over. She was an hour late, but I had a conundrum – if I call her, she might not answer, then I’ll have to text her on top of that and I’ll look attention seeking. If I text her too soon, I look attention seeking. However if I wait too long I’ll appear either too scared to call her out on her bad behaviour (beta) or not very interested in her (which wouldn’t satisfy her resource insecurity). So I waited an hour, then texted her to say ask if she was coming over or not, because if she wasn’t I had stuff to do.

    Now, at this point experience tells me that a beta female would say “why would you bother playing such stupid games, you’re all so immature”. If that’s what you’re about to tell me then consider this: these games are A) totally unconscious on her part and B) what normal alpha people do. They’re a great way for her to judge my suitability as a mate, so she does them without thinking.

    Sure, beta people prefer stable, drama-free relationships. But if you’re an alpha person who invests lots of time and mental energy into your relationships then this kind of behaviour is a great way to judge the competitiveness of your potential partner. As for me, yes, I find it a bit tiresome, but at the same time it’s friggin fascinating when you get it right. Hence the requirement for a large sample size too; only with lots of experience can you have any hope of telling apart bullshit theories from stuff that actually gets people to do what you want.

    So there you have it. Dating alpha people, if you’re not one, is tiresome, politically incorrect, and altogether good fun. Evolutionary psychologists really need to step their game up and start writing about this kind of stuff.

    • Ian

      Oh and definitely read Why Everyone (Else) is a Hypocrite. It’s no shit in my top 5 of best books I’ve ever read out of the couple of thousand of books I’ve ever read.

      All the stuff that I’m saying makes way more sense in the context of brain modularity, given that it stops requiring you to imagine that people “really believe” any of this stuff in order to understand that they really do act this way. Nobody “really believes” that they need to sleep with a big strong male for protection. But their unconscious instincts make them feel things that make them do it anyways.

      • Robert Kurzban

        Thanks, Ian. For the remarks here, and the very kind endorsement(s).

        • Ian

          Thanks for the book Robert. I’ll give you probably the highest endorsement I can, which is that it’s been useful.

    • http://www.realadultsex.com figleaf

      Cute, Ian. I of course agree with you that “only with lots of experience can you have any hope of telling apart bullshit theories from stuff that actually gets people to do what you want.”

      If you think I’m a “beta female” my sixty plus former and current sex partners from all walks of life, plus my several hundred thousand mostly (~70%) women readers over nearly seven years, including (back when I was a pure-sex blogger) the ones who voted me the top-rated male sex blogger, might be just as impressed with the predictive powers of your theories as I am!

      If it’s any consolation I did just download Robert’s book, so good leadership there. Although I might point out that even that’s more in line with the maxim that a good leader presents requests the recipient perceives as an opportunity as opposed to twiddling with their operant conditioning or something.

      figleaf

      figleaf

      • Ian

        Oh, you’re a guy. Right. Hey, it’s hard working with partial information. Incidentally, if you want to talk about alpha and beta it’s interesting that my instincts initially judged you as female. Still trying to decide where that came from.

        To be perfectly honest I read your comment history and you didn’t show the best understanding of evolutionary psychology in many instances, so mostly I was trying to mess with you rather than provide good leadership. Unfortunate trait, I could probably start coming up with bullshit explanations involving my instinctual desire to invest in my ephemeral relationship with you versus the gain by instead using you as an example by just disagreeing with what you say, etc etc.

        Okay, but in all seriousness, self-assessment time. Would you really say that you could walk into a bar, and just by looking at you people would say you’re alpha, ie, strong jaw-line, dominant personality, leader of men? Did you get bullied as a kid, or did you bully other kids? I’m genuinely interested, because I’ve never met a really alpha person who seemed remotely interested in being a top-rated male sex blogger. Although I have met beta people who get laid a lot. This question is purely for information gathering purposes.

  • http://vertebratesocialbehavior.blogspot.com Clara B. Jones

    I studied alternative reproductive strategies in male mantled howler monkeys (published). One strategy exhibited only by the dominant male was to follow a female’s solicitation away from their group to a feeding source that he defended until she terminated her feeding bout. Females sometimes and sometimes did not copulate subsequent to feeding. My impression is that it is risky for human females to reject a male’s sexual advances after he makes a significant investment in her; however, I have no empirical evidence to support this.

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